So I came across a post recent written by my talented younger sister here about Marriage. Of course it got my noddling brain to think about what she had written.
When I was her age, marriage was something that was a MUST for every child, be it man or woman. More so for a woman since she is considered as arrogant if she didn't get married or perhaps something was "wrong" with her! Just like my sister, I wasn't ready at all when I was 23 to get married let alone even talk to a guy!
I had my fair share of failed relationships by the time I was 21 and didn't want to go down the emotional path of sharing my life with someone just yet! Besides, why did my parents educate me? To get me married? No way hosay! I wanted to work, be independent, show my educated skills to any company and prove my worth, earn at least a quarter of the money my parents spent on me! At least that was the dream!
I moved to be with my parents once I completed my Bachelors Degree to basically spend time with my family (mainly my sister - yes she is and always will be the apple of my eye) and work my way up the career world. But of course, as the typical way of the Indian culture goes, my parents spoke to me about marriage and how I should look at some prospects they found on some marriage website! The rebel that I was, fought and believe me I fought hard! I just wasn't ready and they didn't seem to understand that! I had my fun of course! I chatted with many guys, turned them down for the most ridiculous reasons! I felt victorious for a year till my dad decided, enough is enough and took a long unpaid vacation to move to India to get me a man! This time I knew this was serious!
I took up a job in India just so I could be away from the marriage topic at home. I was 24 by this time still keeping in focus my career and making it as an Architect. After a period of frustrating rejections from my end, my parents decided to publish me in the matrimonial section in the local Sunday newspaper. I was nearing 25 and was slowly warming up to the idea of marriage. It might not be THAT bad if the right guy came along.
Then of course he did come along when I was turning 25 and my husband is one of the best things that has ever happened to me! I have made many stupid decisions in my life but saying yes to him was the best decision I have ever made!
I have been happily married for just over 7 years now. As I age, my thoughts have changed with experiences of course. My career shot up after I got married thanks to where my husband was placed along with his constant support and of course my hard work.
Today, I firmly believe that everything has a time and age. There is an age for going to school, working, marriage, having children, etc. Life is all about growth. We grow and there comes an age where we need to share our growth with that someone special.
Marriage is just another special friendship - A lifelong friendship that you commit to grow old together. I found my friend, I sincerely hope you will too because if you find the right person, believe me the journey with that special someone is absolutely worth it!
This post is a personal view. It is not intended to hurt or change anyone's opinion.
